About four years ago I went through one of the most difficult and traumatic experiences in my life. It was a situation involving a failed business partnership that went awry. It was particularly painful having my name unfairly slandered but feeling that I couldn’t speak out because I felt there was no possible way to do so without adding to the drama and making myself look bad. I wanted to stay in a high vibe place, and be as far away from the negativity as possible. However, I know that it’s sooooo much easier for me to say that and feel totally ok with it now, versus what it felt like when I was living this situation exactly four years ago….
Maybe you’ve gone through one or more particularly trying times in your life. Times where people have hurt you, or dragged your name through the mud.
When I was going through that experience I told myself to keep moving forward rooted in values and integrity, one day at a time, with a positive focus on the future. I focused on how I would feel in the coming weeks, months and even a year later down the road. I envisioned my future self and how I would feel differently in the future, that’s what kept me moving through the situation with grace.
Recently, I shared this story for the first time on the Epic Comeback podcast. I can now speak comfortably and confidently about the situation now that time has passed, I’ve healed and can speak about it objectively without being emotionally triggered. But back then…. Back then I felt the world was caving in, and I felt that I could explode in frustration and anxiety. I had to get comfortable accepting that I could not control anyone’s opinions of me or if they believed gossip and lies.
The one thing that we have control over is our own behavior. That’s it.
We can’t control what lies people tell or who believes them. To get through that difficult time, I focused on the future that I was creating. I focused on staying as positive, authentic and loving as possible, because the negative situation had already stripped so much away from me and I was determined to not allow my authentic-self be stripped away as well. The true “me” was all I had left. Maybe you can relate?
When all else is stripped away, you are still in control of you.
There are times in all of our lives when we go through deeply painful, traumatic and difficult experiences. If you’re going through one of those situations, embrace the fact that as you are moving through this difficult time, you are writing your epic comeback.
We all have our shit-show stories, and it’s up to us if we want to turn that into an epic comeback story ?
To get the full scoop on my comeback, and hear other epic comeback stories, check out the super easily digestible 10-minute episodes on the Epic Comeback podcast!